You Want Interest? Don't Just Observe - Participate!

Life that you engage with is inherently more interesting than life that you merely observe. This realization came to me during the time that I was involved in therapeutic and personal growth groups. Group members who sat on the sidelines and observed what was going on tended to be critical of the group and to find it boring until they abandoned the observer role and began to participate.

When people got involved - sharing their own experience and engaging with other people's experience - their attitudes changed. The group had become their group.

What you invest yourself in acquires a much different meaning from what it had when you were the uninvolved observer. It is a fact that when you participate in something, it becomes interesting to you partly because now it has you in it.

The generalization holds for the community you live in, for your garden, your kids' activities - and for your marriage. It also holds true for this blog. CoupleSupport.com will be a much more interesting, dynamic and useful blog when you and other people contribute to it.

As a couples counselor and coach, I am glad to write a piece each week about couple relationships (based usually on my work with couples and sometimes on my own marriage also).

I strive to write material that will be useful to you and to others. However, CoupleSupport.com becomes something much richer than a "The Doctor Says..." monologue when you use the Comments section to add your experience, your observations, your agreements and disagreements and your questions and other people come along and add their comments to yours.

You have your own lived wisdom to share. Get involved. Basically, you can do so anonymously if anonymity matters to you. You can contribute first-name only, and the email address you include won't appear with your comments.

I hope you will join us.