Imagine a highly challenging trek, like a trek through the mountains, that remains largely unfamiliar to most people who undertake it, despite the fact that millions of others have made and are making the same journey.
Imagine that more than a few ostensibly practical manuals have been written about the route to be followed and the challenges to be expected along the way. Despite the existence of these manuals written by professionals, many people have found the going difficult, and the failure rate has been high.
Imagine that what these trekkers could really use is the “feet on the ground” experience, wisdom, and encouragement of others who have made the same journey or are currently on that journey themselves.
Imagine that this particular trek is for couples. In some sense, each couple makes the trek by themselves. However, the journey could be made much easier to travel and many more couples would accomplish it, if there was a community of trekkers providing one another with the support along the way that no manual can really provide.
The journey I am talking about is marriage and any deeply committed couple relationship. The way things are now, each couple makes this journey alone—discovers the route alone, encounters difficulties for which they are unprepared alone, experiences discouragement alone, celebrates their victories alone, cherishes their visions alone.
Alone, when so much could be gained were these couples connected to a supportive community of those making the same journey of commitment as themselves.
The community could be email-based, it could have a blog as a center, it could be a community of people who meet in each other’s homes—any of these forms could work fine.
For now I suggest using this blog, couplesupport.com, as at least a modest vehicle where you and others like you can share your experience and wisdom as well as your questions, so that our journey of marriage and committed relationship can better succeed.
I invite you to participate. Read the blog. At the bottom of any blog post that engages you, click the “comments” link. Then add your thoughts—your experience, suggestions and questions. Add your name and email address—or don’t; you can post anonymously if you need to.
You can also share your comments by writing me at Dr.Sanford@marriagesupport.com. I will use your comments on the blog as much as possible.
I wish in particular to acknowledge those readers of my newspaper column who have emailed me with kind words about what the column has meant to them over the years. I assure you that I will keep on writing, with this blog, for now, as my regular vehicle. I also hope that, in addition to reading the blog regularly, you will contribute your own thoughts to it. If you miss the column, I hope that you will also check out marriagesupport.com
As someone who has supported the column in the past, I ask you to support this blog now, as well as the main site, marriagesupport.com.
It’s true—together we can make a difference.